Month: July 2017

“Respect your uniqueness and drop comparison. Relax into your being.” – Osho
 
 
Today, there’s a divide on social media’s long-term consequences. On one hand, there’s a belief that we have cultivated this culture of needing things to be “picture perfect” and that we have created a pressure based the amount of “followers” which then  pressures some users to create a  false narrative. And although I don’t  see social media entirely as an evil, I have seen how its negative impact.
There are two main components of social media: its content and its networking capabilities. I am guilty of browsing through the several platform’s content for endless hours and appreciate the ability to network and meet amazing individuals I would have never had the opportunity of meeting. But, navigating through today’s social media landscape without comparison or envy can be difficult. So whenever I am tempted to compare myself to others on social media I remind myself of Osho’s quote above.
 
“Respect your uniqueness and drop comparison. Relax into your being.”
 
We all have our individual qualities that separate us for every one else. Embrace them and proudly display them. 
Photographer: Reemy-Reemz Alexander
**My entire outfit was purchased at K-Mart in St. Croix (insert shocked face)**
 
Besitos,
 
Melizza 
 
 
 

This may come as a shock, but I’ve been a nanny for almost 10 years! It’s actually how I began styling and I continued to do so while living in NYC. And was even recognized nationally as “Rockstar Nanny” with a reputable Upper East Side agency. Along the way I’ve learned many valuable life lessons and here are a few golden nuggets I cherish. 

1. Reserve a block of time for personal quiet time every day.

 Any typical day, especially with a toddler, can be extremely demanding so this is a great way to re-energize. If the child is too old for a nap time, make sure you schedule a quiet actiity for you both. You and the child can choose to read, meditate, journal, color, or whatever it is you need to take a break separately. I believe kids should learn to be comfortable doing things they enjoy alone because let’s face is as adults we’re not always going to be around people and I believes it gives us a better sense of ourselves. 

2. Learn to be flexible.

You will have plans and life WILL interrupt them. Ha, honestly have you ever gotten out of the house with multiple children under 5 in under five minutes? If so, please tell me your secret! 

3. Do not feel guilty for needing a break!

When I first started I worked part-time and  everyday novelties were easy. But, after a while it starts to take its toll just like any other job. There have been many times I have overworked myself and felt guilty for wanting to rest so I’d continue to work. What usually ended up happening was that I’d get really ill where I had no choice but to rest. Listen to your body. No one know you better than yourself.

4. Most of your stress comes from the way your respond so you must have patience.

Kids are constantly growing and learning, which can sometimes takes countless tries. You need to have patience when they are completing a task you know you can do faster or when things don’t go as planned, because with kids this happens often. Change what can be change and let everything else go. No need for the extra stress… will whatever it is matter 5 day or 5 months from now? If the answer is no, then let it go and breathe!

5.It’s better to over-pack than under-pack.

You’re shoulders may hate you since your diaper bag will be heavy, but your sanity will adore you! Because in that moment that child wants or needs something you don’t have, you will feel like you have less than 30 seconds to diffuse a tiny human explosive!  And trust me, NO ONE wants to witness that explosion! 

 
6. Good parents have THE HARDEST job in THE WORLD.
As a nanny, I’ve gotten a first hand glimpse. But, I get to check out at the end of the day and don’t have to worry about the kids (not saying I don’t think of them). Parents don’t have that luxury. Which has earned my respect in many ways.
 
While my time as a nanny had a bittersweet ending, the memories will last forever. If you are thinking of becoming a nanny, please realize it is an enormous commitment involving a lot of energy and the ability to be selfless. There will be highs and lows but in the end it is absolutely rewarding.
 
Besitos,
 
Melizza
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