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Rose in Arrow Photography of fashion stylist Melizza P. Williams in Tampa on the beach

For so long I fought to settle down in one place even though I knew it just wasn’t me. As each year passed, I increased my travels. I thought the life of a nomad was for hippies. And that was something my A-Type personality did not want to be associated with. My anxiety was increasing with each step I made to stay put and plant roots. It felt as if everything I was doing was wrong. Somehow going against something I couldn’t quite put my finger on, even though certain things were considered successful.

Rose in Arrow Photography of Melizza on the beach

I realized in Italy that I could no longer ignore what my body and mind were telling (reads: screaming at) me. Island Company’s Quit Your Job motto has always resonated with me.

“Quit Your Job,
Buy A Ticket,
Get A Tan,
Fall In Love,
Never Return.”

Never in a million years would I have thought that I would have done this so early in my life! Once I returned from Italy, I did just that! I quit my job. I bought a one-way ticket to the Caribbean. I’ve gotten a much appreciated sun-kissed tan. And I’m falling in love with myself. I plan on returning to America, but I can’t say when or for how long. What I can say is that everything is falling into place as I’ve fully accepted that I’m meant to travel, explore, and this is not the season for me to stay put or plant any roots. My soul is at peace with this decision. 

Rose in Arrow Photography of fashion stylist Melizza P. Williams in Tampa on the beach
All Photos were taken by Rose in Arrow Photogrphy

I don’t subscribe to the pressures of having a 9 to 5, getting married, and having children early in my life. So for those concerned about the status of my uterus, don’t be because it’s none of your business. I’ve always wanted to be the cool aunt that was constantly traveling and who had a fabulous wardrobe. If I happen to fall in love, get married, and have kids, great. If not, also great! I’m dancing to my own beat and I want it to stay that way.

So go ahead and put your headphones on, select your jams, tune everyone else out, and dance away!

Besitos,

Melizza

The Daisy Brunch Love Triangle

Confession time! I was caught between two in a serious love triangle this summer. One that should have ended once season was over. And to be honest, I’m still caught between the two and have kept them both a secret.

As much as I don’t want to do this, it is time to break up with Brunch and Bellini. Or should I say it’s time to take a break? Because let’s keep it real! Come Spring, I’ll begin the stroll down memory lane and begin flirting with the idea of reuniting as soon as the temperature increases

The Daisy Brunch Love Triangle

After a few months of living in NYC, you’ll get into seasonal habits of New Yorkers. Summer is all about day parties, brunches, and having a summer fling or two or three (who’s counting and who cares?). Fall is about spiced lattes, apple picking, and an open call audition for future cuffing bae (if you haven’t secured that spot with your summer fling).

Winter is all about indoors events, high emphasis on indoors, daydreaming of luxury tropical resorts, and being home more often than you’d like. No one wants to face the bitter cold or the high probability of falling on black ice in heels. It’s the only time of year where it’s almost socially acceptable to cancel because it’s too damn cold. And to quickly summarize Spring, you’re basically a social butterfly waiting for the right moment to break out of your hideous and dark cocoon. All contingent on the weather of course! Obviously you don’t have to adhere to these habits, but they are habits you can easily be picked up.

The Daisy Brunch Love Triangle

So cheers to one last affair between Brunch and Bellini. The Daisy is a new gem of mine is located in the Upper East Side at 1641 2nd Ave. I highly recommend the Regina George (yes, named after THE ultimate mean girl). I had the delicious salmon eggs benedict over a homemade biscuit. The Daisy is a seasonal restaurant so their menus change often. Use the hashtag #WeDrinkPink for a chance to win a free premium bottomless brunch.

Besos,

Melizza

abundance tres jolie

On a rainy day in Williamsburg, Stephanie and I decided to grab a cup of coffee and chat. There’s rarely ever a moment where we’re not chatting. I remember thinking how I was working my ass off and I felt like I wasn’t bearing any fruit. I felt like my harvest was dying as each season passed. What was the point of all this intensive labor if I couldn’t reap from anything I sowed? Stephanie gave me great advice and told me to write down the word abundance. I knew the literal meaning of abundance, a very large quantity of something, but didn’t understand why she of all the words she could have suggested she chose abundance. And I never ask why so it plagued my mind once we departed.

abundance

Fast forward to months later through heartbreaks, strained friendships, depression, and other tribulations I didn’t share with anyone until recently. I now understand why she chose abundance. I needed to change the frame of my thinking (once again). I remember her suggesting meditating and mantras and I snobbishly thought, “I”m not a hippie and yoga is NOT my thing”. But once I put my ego aside I realized it was not about yoga. It is about connecting with one’s self. My thoughts were formed from a place of scarcity.

When I thought of the word abundance, it was on the terms of financial and materialistic gain. I had money. I was able to travel whenever I pleased. I could shop and dine out whenever I wanted. But, I still felt poor. I read somewhere that true abundance is when you experience “joy, health, happiness, a sense of purpose, and vitality.”

abundance tres jolie

The essential meaning of abundance is that you are solidly happy with who you are and no external event or situation—whether good or bad—can add or subtract from that happiness. So be mindful of the seeds you sow within, practice gratitude, practice self-care, perform a random act of kindness, and change your frame of thinking.

ABUNDANCE.

Stephanie, thank you for choosing a word that was once meaningless to me until now.

Besos,

Melizza

 

P.S.

We were having coffee at Toby’s Estate in Brooklyn. Check them out!

Revlon Live Boldly, Refinery29, 29Rooms,

  • bold·ly  ˈbōldlē/
    adverb

1. in a confident and courageous way; showing a willingness to take risks.
2. in a way that is characterized by having a strong, vivid, or clear appearance.

What does it mean to live boldly? Do you imagine of a scene worthy of an action thriller? Maybe you imagine someone standing up for their convictions when it goes against popular belief. Or do you imagine yourself facing a personal challenge?

It was outside 29Rooms from Refinery29 where I had a rather late but beautiful epiphany. My entire life my mom has shown me, by example, how to be a bold and powerful woman. She would always say, “What Lola wants, Lola gets!” And I would always think, “Who the hell is Lola?!”

You’re probably wondering what does this have to do with 29Rooms. Well, I’m getting there…thank you for your patience. My girlfriend was back in town from Israel and going was on her wish-list. But, 29Rooms was completely sold out and this was the last day it would be held in NYC. We knew the chances of getting in were slim to none but my mom’s voice popped into my head loudly and clearly saying, “What Lola wants, Lola gets”! So we trekked from the Upper East Side down into Brooklyn a little weary and wondering if we were wasting our time.

Our hopes dropped once we saw the line. We stood on the corner and began discussing other options. But once again I heard my mom’s voice. “What Lola wants, Lola gets!” Instantaneously, I was determined to get us in! I felt great in my outfit so my confidence was soaring high and so was my charm. I immediately channeled my inner Lola. Repeat with me “What Lola wants, Lola gets”! And just like that, I got us into 29Rooms.

Revlon Live Boldly, Refinery29, 29Rooms,

We entered Revlon’s 82 Shades of Bold as our first installation. This was beyond fitting considering the series of events that lead up to us entering 29Rooms. I chose a shade I believed Lola would approve of. Black Cherry was its name. And as the makeup artist applied it onto my lips I couldn’t help but laugh and wonder if this is how alter egos are created?

Revlon Live Boldly, Refinery29, 29Rooms,

Obviously, I’ve omitted details and names to protect the employees that allowed us the opportunity to enjoy 29Rooms. It was on this day that I realized how Lola gets exactly what she wants. Lola isn’t manipulative nor is she a mean girl. Lola gets what she wants by being kind, confident, persistent, and bold.

So I challenge you to #LiveBoldly. Even if your first step is as small as trying on a new shade of lipstick that’s outside of your comfort zone.

Besitos,

Melizza

valentine's day, cake, dinner party
If you’re anything like me and your middle name should be Procrastination, then you’ve come to the right place! Hence, this guide being posted on the day of Valentine’s Day! For the past three years, I would normally attend a Galentine’s Day brunch with girlfriends at a lovely restaurant. Absolutely minimal work…I just showed up, ate, chit-chatted, paid, and left. But, this year work was a complete GD-blocker! Sadly I wasn’t able to attend the annual Galentine’s Day Brunch so at the last minute I decided to host Valentine’s Day dinner. 
 
 
Valentine’s Day is a great time to celebrate love and friendships after a hectic Christmas season and long AF January! And hosting a Valentine’s Day dinner can be extra special and inexpensive. Here’s is how to pull off a successful Valentine’s Day dinner (on a budget)!
valentine's day menu, salmon, ravioli

* Create a simple menu. Since we’re all coming straight from work I didn’t want to be in the kitchen forever to cook a meal or have them waiting too long. I love Italian cuisine! It can be simple, filling, but most importantly fast and delicious Make sure your dinner is partially premade and partially homemade. So I purchased lobster ravioli from Trader Joe’s. I’m making semi-homemade tomato sauce and tomato Feta soup. I purchased a baguette and salmon to make a simple smoked salmon Crostini.

* Ask your guests to bring wine or dessert. Not only is it going to save you time from having to get everything, it’s going to save you money. Don’t worry it’s not déclassé. Your friends truly won’t mind. Besides, you’re cooking them a lovely meal and entertaining them.

* Create a beautiful tablescape. Don’t get caught up in expensive red roses. Get flowers in soft hues with a whimsical touch from your local grocery store or a street market vendor. Seriously, everyone is selling flowers today…even the gas stations! I have classic white dinner plates and actually found my gold trim dessert plates at Goodwill! My vases were a gift, but if you don’t have any go to the Dollar Store and quickly grab one.

* Create a color scheme and stick to it. My color scheme is white, gold, and pink. Make it easy on yourself! Get colored napkins. White is seriously your best friend for dinnerware.

* Create a balance playlist. Your playlist should be whatever you and your guests enjoy listening to. Mix up the genres. I’m making my playlist on the metro ride into work. I’m mixing the genres with an upbeat theme of love and friendship.

Just because you procrastinated, that doesn’t mean this should be stressful! Make it simple and fun! If you feel like you’re becoming overwhelmed, order an amazing pizza and eat it with candles lit, music flowing, and have a glass of wine. I, personally, just love to entertain and set the atmosphere so I do extra work that my friends don’t necessarily care about but they appreciate it which makes me love doing it more. Enjoy Valentine’s Day whether you’re single or you have a significant other!

 

Besitos,

Melizza

 

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We’ve all had weeks where we think to ourselves “WTF…can I just stop being an adult?” And if you haven’t please do tell me your secret! Lol well, last week was one of those stressful weeks that I wanted to crawl into bed and say, “F*** it!” But, I was so busy I would legitimately have to schedule in crying session (which never happened). So when my friend said she was doing a staycation I didn’t think twice and packed my bags. We stayed in a hotel in the Financial district, explored new restaurants, watched girly shows on TLC, and danced the night away. Our staycation only lasted 24 hours but we felt like we were away in another city for an entire week.

Here are my top 5 reasons to do a staycation:

  1.   It’s less expensive than an actual vacation.  Staycations help you save on expensive airfare, car rentals, accommodations etc. I took the train to our hotel and allocated that fare to something else I wanted. We found an amazing deal on our accommodations. Using Airbnb is another one of my favorite options for accommodations.
  2.  You’ll see your city in a different light. We explored new restaurants, shops, and venues in a neighborhood that we’ve never lived in. I legitimately felt like a tourist in another city. New York has a million new things to see and do. I’d just advise you to make a list and plan out where you want to do and what you want to see. The best part is you can’t really get lost.
  3.  You’ll connect more with yourself and loved ones.  I spent this staycation with my former roomie (turned friend) and we got to know each other more and we bonded over super girly things!
  4.  You can COMPLETELY unplug. I didn’t answer any emails or phone calls while I was relaxing. I wasn’t out of the country, so my family had no need to panic when my cell went straight to voicemail. I was liberating not being chained to my electronics.
  5.  You’ll feel completely refreshed. Our staycation only lasted 24 hours, but it felt like I was gone for an entire week. I went to work the next day feeling as if I could wrestle a lion with my bare hands (which I would never do in real life even if I could).

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So start planning your staycation! You deserve a little R&R. A little bit of research and planning can help you learn new things about your city and maybe even help remind you why you have stayed and haven’t relocated.

Besitos,

Melizza

Volez, Voguez, Voyagez, Louis Vuitton, Exhibition
Like a bear during Winter, it seemed like my body began its own preparation for hibernation. Add in the holiday spread and forget about it! But this Winter I wanted to make a conscious effort to stay stylish like the women on my Pinterest boards! I gave myself a healthy spending budget to purchase some comfortable and stylish jeans, sweaters, and footwear…you know, give myself some kind of incentive to get dress and leave my home. So when I decided to take my best friend to the Louis Vuitton New York Exhibition I pulled out my Plus Size Refuge Destroyed Pearl Applique Crop JeansCharlotte Russe, metallic and white slip-on sneakers, and my vintage fur coat. I wasn’t about to let this amazing outfit go to waste!

We arrived at The American Stock Exchange Building here in NYC which is “Volez, Voguez, Voyagez – Louis Vuitton” until January 7th, 2018. From the moment you enter, you can sense you won’t be disappointed. The tour opens with the most symbolic object of the House: the trunk and retraces the adventures of the House of Louis Vuitton and its founders from 1854 to the present. It even features select articles on loan from the Palais Galliera and the Musée de la Mode de la Ville de Paris along with objects and documents from the Louis Vuitton heritage. This historic journey was designed by Robert Carsen and curated by Olivier Saillard and is worth the wait!

Tickets can be reserved here. Guided tours are sold out for the duration of the exhibition.

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Besitos,

Melizza

manicure, nails

Only the heavens know what gave me the brilliant idea to apply my Jamberry nails for the very first time this late at night. I sat at my desk chanting to myself “I think I can. I think I can” like the Little Blue Engine. Two episodes later of Southern Charm and my determination and energy were practically nonexistent. I wanted to call my consultant like she advised, but I knew she’d be asleep and wouldn’t be thrilled to walk me through a simple process at 1:30 in the morning. I thought to myself, “This isn’t Rocket Science Melizza…What were those tips again for ridding my nails of these air bubbles?”

The clock read 2:35 a.m. and I was beyond exhausted. I rolled over and told myself I’d contact my consultant in the morning before rushing out to catch my flight. And  my body groans as I climbed into bed with a pounding headache knowing I have less than 3 hours before I would l be tempted to smash my alarm against my bedroom wall.

With a quick morning text over to my Jamberry consultant, she recommended using a heated spoon or knife to press out the air bubble and once again reminding me to work from the cuticle to tip. And again I thought “This isn’t Rocket Science Melizza!” The need for my nails to look professionally done was increasing rapidly and these air bubbles were messing up my vision. But, I had less than 20 minutes to do my makeup, hair, and get some caffeine in my system before dashing out to the airport. This technique would have to wait until I landed in Miami. From afar my nails look great but as I type these words at the airport, I’m literally cringing at these air bubbles and almost desperate to use the hand dryer in the restroom and a plastic knife to press them out. But, could this really be done with looking me suspicious? I wasn’t willing to risk be detained for the annoying air bubbles in my nails. It would just have to wait until I arrive at my hotel.

manicure, nails

I was excited to know Jamberry offers over 350 designs. My consultant chose this beautiful matte lilac color with rose gold tip near the cuticle, which was definitely my style. This design was supposed to last about 2 weeks, but the only thing I would think about while pressing and heating my nails was “Is this worth it?” I mean my salon manicure only last 2.5 days before chipping. And on the 4th day I couldn’t take it anymore and grabbed my acetone to remove the polish.

By the time I checked into the hotel it was late in the evening, all I wanted to do was to shower and rest. But, I was constantly reminded of the air bubbles on my nails. I practically torched my nail beds to smooth out these air bubbles and did a decent job but it wasn’t as smooth as I wanted. My ultimate desire was for my nails to look like I had them professionally don’t without the salon price. Sure I was complimented many times about my nails, but I swore these air bubbles would be the death of me.

My Jamberry manicure did chip like a normal salon manicure and didn’t last the advertised two full weeks. Now it lasted longer than my regular manicure, but those air bubbles were a thorn in my side. I would like to think that I may give it another try with the tips from my consultant. But, I can honestly say I haven’t been turned into a believer and that probability is extremely low.

manicure, nails

I could blame my dissatisfaction on multiple things. Maybe it was me and not the product, maybe if I had a hotter blow dryer, or maybe if I didn’t do it at 2 am I wouldn’t have had the air bubbles. But either way, I realize I don’t have the time, patience, nor the desire to trim design to my nails or to torch my nail beds to get that smooth perfected look that I desire. It involved more work than I wanted to do. This should have been tried on a lazy Sunday when I had the time.

If you guys have used Jamberry let me know your experiences with the product. Do you have any tips for women thinking of purchasing Jamberry instead of going to the salon or purchasing press on nails?

Besitos,

Melizz

Fashion to Figure Dress, Sincerely Tommy Necklace, Nude sandals

 I wrote the following over two years ago and I have only shared it with my mom and sister. But as I sit here in my Miami hotel room, I decided to share it with you.

 

~ October 15, 2015 ~
My trance abruptly ended as the aircraft’s obnoxious seatbelt signal dinged and its captain notified the flight crew and passengers to prepare for landing. One could have easily attributed the decrease in pressure I felt to the flight descent into my hometown’s airport. But, I knew better.

Less than three hours earlier, I felt as if I was suffocating under the weight of my proverbial baggage prior to boarding. I mindlessly stared at the one-way boarding pass my fingers loosely gripped wondering if I’d ever purchase a returning ticket. Only a handful of loved ones knew the truth behind my hasty return home. To everyone else, my social media beautifully masked the pretense that I was extremely happy and living ‘the’ dream in the big city. It never once revealed what I was struggling with while pursuing my dreams.

selfie

Whether it was because of pride or the fear of being vulnerable and judged, I chose to hide the depths of my struggle. Yes, I was proud that I had won a national contest, met a celebrity fashion stylist, attended wonderful events, and worked during the coveted fashion week. But, truth be told, I felt lost in the Bermuda Triangle of trying to find myself in a city of millions and making a name for myself within the fashion industry. I felt alone. I felt unsure of myself and I began to question my decisions, my identity, and my self-worth, which isn’t normal for me. And not to mention that I felt drained mentally, financially, physically, and emotionally.

Fashion to Figure Dress, Sincerely Tommy Necklace, Nude sandals

I yearn for the moment life’s pressures and turbulence would cease and my ride would be nothing but smooth and clear skies. But, deep down I knew it was not meant to be so. Moments of turbulence will occur and moments of intense pressure may cause you to feel as if you’re in desperate need of an oxygen mask. Don’t lose hope or become discouraged! You’ll survive the bumps and will regain your ability to breathe. In these moments you learn more about yourself: your needs, your wants, your truths, and most importantly your strength. Persevere and focus on your final destination! You can do it!

It’s been two weeks since I left the city. I spent my time home being surrounded by the people, places, and things I love. Through being vulnerable with my communications and my interactions I continue to learn more about myself. I was inspired by many. I learned things I didn’t know and related to their journey pursuing their dreams and some of their personal struggles, which made me realize I wasn’t alone.

Fashion to Figure Dress, Sincerely Tommy Necklace, Nude sandals
Dress: Fashion to Figure, Necklace: Sincerely Tommy

As I stare out of my aircraft’s window, I can’t help but replay all the moments that have lead to this moment of returning. In this moment, I have come to appreciate life’s pressures and turbulence. It has made me stronger, more confident, and even more resilient and independent. I am encouraged, inspired, and know I can accomplish my dreams of becoming a well respected and renowned fashion stylist not only in New York City but internationally. Take flight, soar high, and enjoy life’s ride.

xoxo

Fashion to Figure Dress, Sincerely Tommy Necklace, Nude sandals
Photographer: Rose in Arrow

 I’ve had many conversations with different friends who are following their dreams and we’ve all concluded that we don’t feel like we share the turbulence we experience. I believe we should share some challenges because even the greats faced challenges. Failures aren’t really failures. They are lessons and evidence that you’ve tried. So keep trying and pushing. And don’t worry if everything isn’t social media perfect either.

Besitos,

Melizza

ASOS Dress, WhoWhatWear Dress, Plus Size Fashion

If my life were a sitcom, the past two weeks would have had my viewers on an emotional climatic edge! With my rocky path of personal growth and development center stage for everyone to see. My closest friends can attest to some of the most bizarre yet comical conversations and interactions I’ve had with the opposite sex (old and new), my professional & personal dilemmas, and even the reappearance of characters viewers thought were killed or written off from the very first season!

ASOS Dress, WhoWhatWear Dress, Plus Size Fashion

There were moments where I’d sit to catch my breath and something else would happen unexpectedly like a football hitting me in the face out of nowhere. We’ve all seen that scene and have winced from the second-hand pain and the second-hand embarrassment that follows. I seriously thought to myself almost every day, “where’s the freaking film crew?”

But one night, while restlessly tossing and turning, I wondered “what am I putting out that’s inviting this chaos in?” And the simple answer was: allowance. I was allowing certain things that I shouldn’t have entertain to enter my life as if my life were a hit sitcom like ‘Insecure’. But it’s not! And I was emotionally drained.

ASOS Dress, WhoWhatWear Dress, Plus Size Fashion
Dress: ASOS, Heels: Who What Wear, Necklace: H&M
I knew I had to immediately let go of a few luxuries and a few love interests. And as a single boujee woman in the city, that was hard! But, like an executive producer and screenwriter, I decided to write out quite a few characters that weren’t beneficial to the plot and will not be making any future cameo appearances. And to symbolically match clipping loose ends, I went and got my hair clipped. I’ve also been purging my wardrobe of pieces that no longer match my journey.
 
My mantra became “let the past be the past” and it really helped me to live and enjoy the present. I can sincerely say that I’m becoming more grateful for the life I live instead of feeling entitled to a life I desire. These are stepping stones for my personal growth and I know much more will be added and much more are needed. But, I was reminded that stepping stones are best put under your feet and not above your shoulders.
 
ASOS Dress, WhoWhatWear Heels, Plus Size Fashion
Photographer: Henrietta M.
 
“There are far better things ahead than any we leave behind.” ~ C.S. Lewis
 

Besitos,

Melizza

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