This may come as a shock, but I’ve been a nanny for almost 10 years! It’s actually how I began styling and I continued to do so while living in NYC. And was even recognized nationally as “Rockstar Nanny” with a reputable Upper East Side agency. Along the way I’ve learned many valuable life lessons and here are a few golden nuggets I cherish.
1. Reserve a block of time for personal quiet time every day.
Any typical day, especially with a toddler, can be extremely demanding so this is a great way to re-energize. If the child is too old for a nap time, make sure you schedule a quiet actiity for you both. You and the child can choose to read, meditate, journal, color, or whatever it is you need to take a break separately. I believe kids should learn to be comfortable doing things they enjoy alone because let’s face is as adults we’re not always going to be around people and I believes it gives us a better sense of ourselves.
2. Learn to be flexible.
You will have plans and life WILL interrupt them. Ha, honestly have you ever gotten out of the house with multiple children under 5 in under five minutes? If so, please tell me your secret!
3. Do not feel guilty for needing a break!
When I first started I worked part-time and everyday novelties were easy. But, after a while it starts to take its toll just like any other job. There have been many times I have overworked myself and felt guilty for wanting to rest so I’d continue to work. What usually ended up happening was that I’d get really ill where I had no choice but to rest. Listen to your body. No one know you better than yourself.
4. Most of your stress comes from the way your respond so you must have patience.
Kids are constantly growing and learning, which can sometimes takes countless tries. You need to have patience when they are completing a task you know you can do faster or when things don’t go as planned, because with kids this happens often. Change what can be change and let everything else go. No need for the extra stress… will whatever it is matter 5 day or 5 months from now? If the answer is no, then let it go and breathe!
5.It’s better to over-pack than under-pack.
You’re shoulders may hate you since your diaper bag will be heavy, but your sanity will adore you! Because in that moment that child wants or needs something you don’t have, you will feel like you have less than 30 seconds to diffuse a tiny human explosive! And trust me, NO ONE wants to witness that explosion!
- Shop on Newbury Street
- Go on a Duck Tour ($39.50)
- Walk the Freedom Trail
- Grab a late night cocktail and dance at Alibi
Places to Stay:
- Airbnb ($70/night)
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Sometimes, I have to remind myself to be fearless. And that my comfort zone is a trap. Nothing amazing ever happens in your comfort zone! Point blank, end of discussion. Everything you’ve ever dreamt of is right outside the borders you have limited yourself withing. I’ve wanted to give up since things have gotten extremely hard but know I deserved more and my dreams are worth each struggle. And so are yours!
At first I felt selfish, but if there is one thing that New York City continues to teach me is that my personal health is far more important than anything else. When I say “health” I’m referring to my emotional, mental, and physical health. Like Bruna said, “There is nothing wrong in choosing ourselves and loving ourselves first so we can be confident enough to help others to love themselves too.”